Have you ever consider seriously to live another life? To do a different job? 

My friend Patrick is a successful financial director in London who is totally passionate about self-development and performance.
Naturally, we met at a motivational seminar 3 years ago in California. In his mid 40s, with 3 children and a respectable career, Patrick was seriously considering a professional transition to become an executive coach and mentor. 

For a couple of years now,  he has been committed to his official job by day, and to switching to his passion for coaching by night (and at every spare moment he could find). 
Last time we reached out to catch up I asked him for some updates on his transition. 
His first answer was the same as the one he gave two years before:

- Well… I haven’t quit yet.
This year we have some really challenging goals and issues I must cope with. The pressure is very high… Bla Bla Bla.
And you know, I have a family to support...

- “ You are living my dream life! You’ve crafted your work and your life from nothing and nowhere other than your desire and will. It’s utterly beautiful and inspiring Jeanne.”
- “Well thanks, Isa. But, I mean… I better have my life together!! Because, think a minute, this is exactly what I sell!
[She laughs.]

Actually, I’ve never been a fan of that old saying, something about a Shoemaker’s son who goes barefoot. Now, this proverb surely doesn’t concern everyone, but for certain professions (and professionals), if this shoe fits, it’s a red flag. And mine definitely is.
Imagine a hair-dresser with bad hair, an architect who lives in an ugly home with no spatial optimization, a broke financial investor, a cook who hosts a dinner and serves you frozen food…Would you hire them?

Who you are is what you promise.
Distrust comes from dissonance.

“The Shoemaker’s son goes barefoot”.
I guess that...

In any relationship or transaction, what you actually deal in is trust.
It is less about ice-cream, clothes, consulting, or law services than it is about trust.
The same goes for your lover, your marriage, your kids, your friends. Same for your presidential candidate. Same for the vaccine to end this pandemic… Anything.
What you expect – and what you offer –  is TRUST.

Back to our question. Are you trustworthy?
My guess is we know when we are, and we know when we are not.

Notice that I haven’t said “IF” but “WHEN”.

Using “IF” would imply that there are only 2 categories: those who are trustworthy and those who are not. I don’t believe in this binary; There is no such thing as Manichaeism when it comes to humans. The grey area, and its thousands of nuances represents the majority.
Besides, we are all evolving and changing constantly in real life.

Using “when” is indeed a sweet reminder that...